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Question your explanations of others behavior when we make a mistake, we tend to find causes outside

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of ourselves to account for them when others make mistakes.

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We blame them on the person.

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For example, I used to get annoyed with drivers who had their lights off at night and didn't turn them

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on when I tickled my high beams.

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Then one night I did it myself, getting all the way to my destination without realizing I'd forgotten

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to turn on my lights.

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I realized we can all make this mistake and I stopped getting annoyed with these drivers.

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When you notice that you're attributing others faults to their character, ask yourself if there's kinder

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and more accurate explanation.

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Maybe the driver who cut you off is on the phone with the doctor about his sick child.

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The attributions we make for others behavior have a big impact on our anger.